I use maxi pads or panty liners. But the band prevents my boys from going. The time they go is when it has been over night. Do you have it on him tightly--I meant not so tight they cant move, but not lose. I was told yesterday by manolosmom to try adult diapers. She said they are much cheaper and you can cut them into squares for the band. Might try that, I am going to.