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Originally Posted by Yorkiedaze  When I got my first one I felt as you do, that she needed her own kind to keep her company and play with her like only another dog can play. My husband was all for it because he knew as I do that dogs are pack animals and are happiest with their kind, not to mention how much better it is for them to be together when parents are out of the house. It worked beautifully, except Zada was so laid back and Azrael was so full of energy and wanted to play more than Zada did, so I thought I should try to get another one that was energetic and playful so we got Razael who is a very playful little girl. We dearly love watching our "Yorkettes" as a little pack of their own, and with their individual personalities and charm.
The difference between my husband and I is we have always been our own person to do as we want as long as it isn't hurting the other or being disrespectful in any way. We always discuss any major purchases or like a pet that impacts both of us before making a decision. Some husband's think they should be in total control over everything, and the wife actually becomes an enabler, and when she wants to do or buy something, the husband expedite's his dominate roll which leads to an argument where no one wins. Sometimes the wife will either cry or get verbally aggressive and the husband just gives in to shut her up, but the bad feeling will stay with him and can start feelings of disrespect. (without love and respect, you have no friend) Best thing to do is have some very long talks, explaining how you feel and why. Try to get both of you on the same roll, not have one more dominate. Listen to what he feels as well, and weigh the difference. Always be prepared for a compromise. |
Well thats what I said to him tonight ...why is him saying "NO" more important or final than me saying "yes"? It will impact on him slightly, but not to the same extent as it will impact me. I think he does see that, but I do feel that we need to agree on it. I cant just get my own way, cos it will cause problems further down the line.
I did say if we get another one I will make Toby sleep downstairs instead of in the bed with us cos then he will have company.....I think it will be more like another one in the bed with us as well!
