[red98vett]

I have a question I debated on posting about. But I'm serious in trying to find words for a particular situation. (it's only because it just happened again walking my girls that I decided to ask)

I've been asked way too many times lately by total strangers and or men at my apartment complex if I'm married. Lots of you know my husband died and it's strange to be asked that. I never know how to answer. I'm starting to despise that question.

What I WANT to say is None of your freakin business but - they're sometimes neighbors - sometimes strangers - and I don't want to be a b*tch about answering .....

I want to say I'm married but that would be a lie ....then again, it would convey that someone lives with me ....(I'm not used to being alone and a bit paranoid) ...but still a lie ....and I don't lie

I don't use the word 'widowed' cause I just find it too hard to say ...and I don't want someone thinking I'm alone and an easy target. I don't think telling a total stranger my husband died is right either ...for the same reasons. Again.... it's none of their business !

any ideas ?- I need a standard answer because every time I get asked that stupid question I get a little resentful they asked ....and don't quite know how to answer it.

Thanks - This isn't normal for me to come ask questions like this so I feel kind of funny asking ....