Thank you everyone for your responses. I printed out a copy of my original post and left it out for my husband to read, I figured it would be easier for him to read it than for me to try and explain it and have him keep interupting me. What he said was that he didn't realize I felt this way (I don't know if I beleive that or not, I put up a huge fight when we brought him here, does he think my feelings just changed?) But he also said that he was being lenient on him because he was just uprooted from his life and friends and the DH wanted him to have time to adjust. He started school this last Monday and now knows some people around here so its time to grow up. My DH said that he was going to talk to Zach and set the rules, they had this talk before I was up so I'm not sure how it actually went.
Zach was never in a "home" he was always passed around from house to house so I understand that he wasn't really raised right, but I still think he should be gracious for being in such a good house now, he said the other day that he has been more taken care of in our house in a week than he was in his entier life. I am the nuturing type and in normal cases always welcome anyone to my house but I don't expect to get slapped in the face because of it as I have been. We have to keep him till he turns 18 in January DH has full custody of him now. But after that pretty much I have my mind made up that he's out. We will see how this next week goes now that he knows what's expected of him and if things don't start to change he's getting shipped back to PA.
My husband and I have an amazing relationship when there aren't interuptions. I don't know if you've seen the Notebook or not but that is literaly the story of our life (I still cry like a baby every time I see it because of that). I think he just likes having a boy around to play with and knows that we are Zachs best chance at a real life. Zach already said he is joining the Air Force when he gets out of high school. I just dont know if i can make it till then... |