I feel so bad that you have been responded to so negatively. Alot of people on here tend to be very quick to react and I really don't think they mean to come off so snappy. Although you have had some rough responses, I truly wish you luck and please, keep hanging in there. I'm sure everyone means well and sometimes when we read, sometimes we mis-read the actual intent of the poster. Try some of the better suggestions you have received and remember that deep down, we all want you and your babies to be happy.