[Nancy1999]

Lol, I'm older and usually when I read this type of thread, I try to give information about what the mother-in-law may be going through, or just another way to see things in a different perspective, but, sorry, I can't in this case with the mother-in-law from hell! I do not think you are over-reacting. This woman has crossed way too many boundaries, and this is something your boy friend will have to deal with. There are certain things you can learn to say, to people who are totally out of control, like, "I don't allow people to speak to me that way," and then you walk away. Books on assertiveness training and Toxic relationships will have lots of great suggestions on how to deal with people like this, but you almost have to memorize lines, until it becomes natural for you. My only suggestion, is that I would let my boy friend tell his mother that he can't talk now, I've learned that putting myself in between my husband and his family always backfires, there's one person in the family he hates to talk to, and he wants me to tell them he isn't home. So then they think, I'm trying to keep them apart. Now I give him the phone, and let him handle it, and it's much easier on me. Remember, a mother will always forgive her son, but she will hold grudges against you. Best of luck to you, I hope you learn how to deal with this before you consider marriage.