[megooego]

I'm going crazy! My boyfriend's mother is in town.. she came unannounced!

She calls my cell phone at around 8 pm on Thursday night, screaming at me, "Where the F*** is Rick?" (my bf) My boyfriend and I are always avoiding her calls because all she does is whine and nag at us. Most of the time when she calls he has me answer and make up an excuse why he can't come to the phone. (showering, working, etc.) Well this time we figured mowing the lawn was a good excuse so I told her that. She said, "Really, hes mowing the lawn huh? Well i'm outside and I don't see him out here!".....She wasn't kidding. She was parked outside and she had intentions on staying...for AWHILE.

She is literally making me go insane. She is criticizing me because she thinks I don't clean up the house enough.. First of all this is none of her business..second of all if i KNEW she was coming i wouldve cleaned up more! We have gotten into a yelling match about this twice since she's been here. Whenever there are dishes in the sink that have been sitting for longer than a minute she asks me to do them and stop being so lazy. AHHH its sooo annoying. Sometimes i leave things out on the counter because i know i will be returing to them, and she gets sooo pissed and asks me why can't i clean up after myself. Seriously, I am an adult and she is NOT my mother, I can live how i want to live, and i shouldnt have to be screamed at for every move I make that she doesnt approve of.

My boyfriend has been having car trouble lately and we intended on getting the car fixed at a later date when we had the extra cash.. well she heard about the car and said she had to come and take care of everything immediately because we obviously cant handle our expenses according to her.. ugghh.. She even threatened to take my puppy Jimi away because she doesn't think we can afford it! thats none of her business we are taking care of him and going to the vet regularly. We wouldn't have gotten a puppy if we couldn't afford it. We saved up money for him and he is a very happy and healthy pup. (this might have something to do with the fact that she is obsessed with him, which i understand in some way because he is a cute puppy, but still she is NOT having him EVER!)

She also says that my boyfriend cannot support me because i am too damn needy. First of all I have a job and we work together to pay our bills. She has a problem with me wanting to have the air conditioning on.. umm its august its hot outside! Im sure most of you keep your air on during the summer at least.. She turned our air off now and is having the windows open! Im sweating like a pig. And i feel like Jimi is suffering as well.. he seems to pant more =[ I like to live comfortably, why is that needy?

Anothing thing - she smokes in the house! and i told her i dont approve of it. First of all, I am asthmatic and go crazy when people smoke around me.. I have coughing fits and it makes my chest hurt! ..second of all I want her to do it outside and away from the dog because its bad for his lungs.. she has two yorkies of her own that she smokes around and they dont have health issues (thats her excuse of course) but im not going to risk it.. whats the point.. Second hand smoke must be just as bad for dogs as it is for people. Right??

Also another thing I will mention.. this may be inappropriate so excuse me but i guess my boyfriend and his mom were drinking and he made a joke about how we are never intimate..just to assure his mother.. well she took it seriously. She came up to me and said why are you not fufilling his needs? Me and my husband had sex like rabbits when we were your age. OMGG!! ahhhh... Our sex life is none of her freaking business! Its so embarrassing and I shouldnt have to defend myself like this in my own house! agh what does anyone think about all of this? How do i settle down and relax again?!

She says she has no intentions on leaving until the car is fixed and all of our finances are in order.. who knows how long this could be in her opinion! ahhh help me.

Sorry about all of this i just had to vent to someone.. maybe im overreacting but i hate feeling uncomfortable in my own home.