 Need support, less stress
going out on a limb here and opening up my heart and mind and typing out my feelings and emotions...
Ever since i decided a yorkie was the right dog for me, i've read countless books about how to care for one and what to do for one. i was fully prepared to get my little girl and super uplifted and excited about having her. my aunt suggested that i get onto YT which i had already stumbled upon myself in my research and reading. at first i really thought this site would bring a lot of joy and useful information to me (and it has in some aspects) i have made a lot of good friends, learned so much about my puppies life ahead by searching through the archives of previous information here...i like YT, i like to be able to learn and understand the world my pup lives in better from other's experience...
BUT...
there are times when i have been more stressed out and upset than a person should become simply due to the things people say on here. people have strong opinions and that's all good and well, but those opinions sometimes aren't something that needs to be shared, and if you must share them because you "Have to say something" wouldn't your point be better taken if you try to be more tactful in the approach used?
Here's how i'm feeling:
I think most of the stress/worry/frustration that i've been having with my new puppy is not only due to her, but a lot stems from what i read on here. i spend an entire boring work day with nothing better to do than to read YT posts and try to learn about Sadie's behavior and how to teach her and love her. there are so many different ways to train her not to bite, so many tactics and so many strong opinions on how to do things...i think i am using this site too much and actually overwhelming myself and my puppy with all the information and opinions i'm finding. not only are some of the more negative posts about Sadie's age stressing me out and upsetting me all day at work (which i bring home with me) but all the different ways to train her are starting to add too many things to me and her and making it difficult to actually stick with one thing.
the vet told me a long time ago the worst thing a new mother both of pups or kids can do is to READ TOO MUCH from books and the internet. she said you can really overwhelm yourself and worry yourself to death listening to everything that you will read. she's right, too much information is a bad thing that only leads to more stress/worry/confusion
i think from now on i have to learn to take what is said in any internet site or book with a grain of salt and realize that Sadie is her own dog and she's not going to fit a mold or model and not all dogs are alike, something that works for you won't work on her....
so thanks for the advice, and thanks for taking the time to help...don't stop doing so because i appreciate learning and trying to find out how to help my puppy, but from now on i need to take only what i need from this forum and not get too overwhelmed or bogged down by some of these posts...
if you all could help ease the stress by keeping your posts on topic and without any harsh sounding wording to stress me out, and keep away from those negative or (THE WORLD ENDING EMERGENCY) posts that would help me to be a calmer, more patient, loving, and calm-assertive person to train my puppy right from wrong without going off the deep end from all the insanity that i get all day online.
THANK YOU |