[BindTK]

i first want to start off by saying that some of methods ive used in raising my yorkie you might not agree with. ive relized ive done something wrong in my upbringing and im looking for advice to change. please dont just tell me how much of a bad person you think i am. i honestly just want some answers to help my situation.

first i want to start off by giving you a small version of my dog history, to give insight on how i view things. i was raised (around 13 at the time) with a yellow lab mix. i played very rough with this dog and he loved every second of it. also when he would do something wrong, i would yell at him and spank him once. he then would learn from his mistake and often come up to me and lay down next to me as if saying "sorry" he was a great dog.

what got me to like yorkies was a few years later living with a friend of mine. he had one and i loved their cute personalities. i saw how attatched he was to the owner and tried to get companionship with the dog but to no avail. if he was ever laying on me and the original owner would walk in hed jump off me and lay with him. it was frustrating but i knew one day id have my own to get attatched with.

jump a few more years later again and now i live in my own place by myself. after being here a year i decided to get a dog, my first choice was a golden lab, but after finding out i could only own small dogs where i lived my next obvious choice would be a yorkie.

around here there pretty expensive but after talking with a neighbor i found out that one of there friends was selling there 6 month old yorkie. i met with the owner and found out that she was selling it because she wanted to give him a better life. after she had her baby she couldnt give him as much attention and her husband said it was a sissy dog and often picked on him, and so did his friends when they came over.

i ended up getting the yorkie at a very low price and hes seriously the cutest yorkie ive ever seen. he wasnt at all potty trained and everytime he chewed on something like a carpet, or if he went to the bathroom in my house i would yell "NO!" at him, stick his nose in it, and spank him once. then i would put him in his cage for around 15 minutes. this is how i raised my lab and it worked fine. but i got a differnt reaction from the yorkie. instead of comming up to me and laying down next to me as if saying "sorry" like my old dog did, he would avoid me and lay in some corner of my place, and sometimes afterward id call him and he wouldnt come to me which is unheard of with labs. when you call your dog and he doesnt listen its really frustrating and sad.

eventually he learned certain words and phrases and knew how to let me know he needed to go outside. this made things much easier. but once every 3 days or so hed sit right in front of me and start going to the bathroom, KNOWING hed get punished for it, to me it was like his way of saying "screw you" but im not really sure.

my girlfriend lives in a differnt country than me and came out here to live with me for a month, i took of work too. so the dog is around us alot. when usually im at work half the day and hes in the cage. after about the 3rd day he was completely attatched to her hip. i thought this was because hed met someone new that was staying in my house for more than a few hours. but no, its differnt. because now its been 3 weeks and its gotten progressively worse.

he follows her everywhere and is extreamly happy with her, a happiness ive never seen in him before. he wont listen to me or come to me anymore. when i call him he just hides under and i have to walk across the room to pick him up. if i hold him for a while and pet him he starts whimpering because he wants down so badly. but with my girlfriend he constantly cuddles up with her.

whats made things worse is that when hes doing something bad, my girlfriend tells me to yell at him, she never actually punishes him herself. so its like our only relationship now is me being the bad guy to him.

another weird thing is that he goes to bathroom outside everytime now, seriously not in 3 weeks since my GF has been here has he gone inside once.

now that i see my dogs true colors i almost resent him. here i am trying so hard to have a connection with him and my GF gets here and in 3 days she accomplished what i couldnt in 3 months! now that i see his true colors im pretty much convinced i have to sell him after she leaves.

it was like he was just "dealing" with me until he thought maybe his real owner would come back one day. that he never actually liked me at all.
is it because his previous owner was a girl? and the only "guys" in his life treated him bad so now he can only trust women?

i just need to know from you guys if its at ALL possible to get a relationship with this dog like my girlfriend has? or if at this point its just impossible b/c in his eyes im now the "bad guy" ? is my only option now to sell him? my girlfriend leaves in a week and a half so i got to make choices soon, please help!