I married at 35; my husband was 38 and it was first marriages for both of us. Having "alone" time was something I, too, wondered about because I love to read, etc. Somehow it just worked out. We didn't "plan" for alone time but after the newness wears off, the time will come.
Now 22 years later we are both retired and home all day. Again, we don't plan for our alone time but having some different interests as well as those we have in common helps us achieve that "alone" time. Plus, I love my laptop while he still prefers his regular computer over his laptop.
All his "toys" are upstairs in the bonus room. All his music stuff (stereo and instruments) along with his computer stuff reside in the bonus room which is his alone. I generally don't even go up the stairs.
You adapt somewhat in addition as you settle into marriage. I have managed to interest him more in movies while I "tolerate" alot more of the news channels. It also helps that I have grown to love college sports (UT and SEC) while he has learned to enjoy and appreciate the TN Titans.
Over time I think you will probably begin to enjoy some of his interests and he, yours but the balance is in still maintaining your own interests, too.
I wouldn't worry too much about being together all the time. It may seem that way at first but it should begin to balance itself out after a few months. |