[tammys]

Originally Posted by FlDebra

I think you have misunderstood what I said. Here is the quote: "But I wrote some of my reasoning in the other thread that seems to have spurred this one at least partially. " In other words I was saying that the other thread spurred this thread -- not that my post within that thread did. I linked the thread and told you the number to my post as I was thinking you may have not read it since I knew it came after.

We will have to part ways on some of the other issues. I understand what you are saying, but I still believe some issues cannot be worded as nice as some people want. For instance, I saw nothing rude about the second post in the other thread. But the OP went off on that member. So, my feeling is the real rudeness came from the very person claiming to want help. She was the name caller, the "yeller," the ranter. Others very calmly said their piece, which did include that the brother had been irresponsible, a fact that the OP now seems to agree to.

There will always be differences in the way people look at things and the preferences they have for wording -- most of which depends on their particular part in the play. (For instance, the very person that claims she was attacked seems to be doing most of the attacking!) Some of those differences are good -- they make up the diversity that keeps life interesting and minds learning. If everyone agreed with everyone else all of the time, who would ever open their mind to new ideas? Who would ever dare to look at life differently and maybe, just maybe see something new? I used to look for people who were not afraid to disagree with me in the workplace. It did one of two things -- either made me find new justification for my own convictions or opened my mind to another way to look at things. I felt like either way, I won! Don't be afraid of different views! I respect your right to feel differently than I do, but ask for the same in return.

Puppies needed a feeding, so I am still up. ***sigh***

I think I'm too tired, b/c you lost me on the first part. LOL

I don't think we are disagreeing as much as it may have seemed at first.

Anyway, I absolutely respect anyone's rights to feel differently, and am not afraid of that. Believe me, very few people believe the way I do in many, many ways. LOL The world would be a very boring place if we all felt the same way.