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Originally Posted by tammys  For the record: I will admit that some recent posts spurred me to finally say something, but like I said at the beginning of my post, this has been weighing on me for a while, and I haven't even been here that long.  So, it wasn't just those recent posts that got me thinking about this. |
I saw you had only been here what, two weeks? Sometimes it takes longer than that to sort of get to know the participants in a forum, see who really is there to help others, often with more than words. Once you know them better, you also get a better feel for their intent, their passions, their own convictions, and their "walk." You don't usually get that in two weeks or a very few postings. It takes time to really get to know folks. Sometimes a new poster is not always as they seem either. I try to reserve some of my "sympathies," if I initially have them, until I see the cut of their jib. I have gotten burnt jumping on the wrong band wagon too soon before. (Sorry for mixing metaphors).
I don't think advice always needs to be sugar-coated to be useful. I think some ducks need to be called ducks -- I think the big picture is often more important than the individual's sensitivity. But I wrote some of my reasoning in the other thread that seems to have spurred this one at least partially. I am not going to repeat my whole post here but instead link to the thread -- it is post #38 there
http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/bre...-newbie-2.html. See if you can see there might be another side of the coin after reading there.