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Originally Posted by Mardelin  I understand the reluctance of some people asking questions, being afraid of being attacked. And I can't explain what one person says that may trigger my impatience and why another doesn't. I usually don't answer someone's post until I check how long they've been a member and their past posts. It usually gives me insight as to where they are coming from. Are they a lurker and all of a sudden an oops happened and they only speak up when they're in trouble. Maybe I'm a bit rigid in my way of thinking; but if they've been on awhile they've been reading and should have learned something from their reading and should be asking questions. If they are brand new and in trouble my only concern is for the yorkie.
There's a young lady on YT came on here a couple of years ago, planned to breed, read everything and studied everything she could get her hands on. She just had a litter, she was prepared, but knew she might get in trouble and would not recognize the signs and asked for # if she should get in trouble. My gosh she'd call me and already knew the answers but needed reassurance. |
Thank you mary, I really think what it is in many cases is the difference in how the first post on a certain thread is said. How it is said and what they are asking for.. Is all I can see..
But if a person is for real.. and yes sometimes we never know this.. but thinking they are real.. first we must think.. they are nervous, upset, scared, and they just blurt out things they might not even be thinking is logical or not.
I know I had a hard time getting papers from a breeder.. wanting more money for the papers after I had my girl.. when she popped on my msn chat to tell me this.. my typing was oh so bad.. I was replying to her and believe me.. when I look at what I saved today.. I looked like an idiot.. but I was shocked.. I was angry, I was so totally shaking at that moment, I was thinking but was not even typing the whole words..just as an example..
I am saying this girl for an example, although she loves her brother, feels the need to take care of this yorkie and is scared to death of the what if's.. and we all say, even you said your here for the yorkie.. but if the yorkie dies giving birth due to a person coming to the largest yorkie forum around and gets no help.. then who looses here.. not the human.. but the yorkie..if that makes sense..
I also know that trolls makes it harder for a good breeder to trust then..but this person was just asking for help.. she could have been given a link like ladymom gave her..
Ya know you and others think there is so so much of this kind of irresponsible people, and there really is, and sometimes I get upset also.. but seeing others hurt or attacked for lack of a better word but it is the word used all the time.. so will use it now also..
Like the first post.. I never care who makes the post.. it is how it is said.. there is a way of asking a person questions.. like this person saying the dog weas bred 50 times.. well I do not know but I have yet to find a stud that over those vital days a female will accept the male do they want to do it 50 times.. so right away I did not take that as a serious point.. I thought this is what her brother said to her.. and since she does not breed.. she innocently put that down in print.. but then the first poster jumps in.. once a first poster comes in.. from what I see is .,.. if it is a good post.. it gets followed.. if it is a sarcastic or nasty post then again others follow..
like dee coming on.. I know she is devestated at what she was through with her girl.. but at the same time.. why even post.. If I were that upset over my girl I would not come to yt to look for a thread that would P*ss me off..
I understand how Dee is feeling.. but does this new person that comes here and asks for help know what she has been through.. maybe she should have taken the time to post what happened.. maybe she could have helped this person so the female she is caring for does not go through this.. and what signs to look for.. what not to do.. I know Dee made a thread.. does this person know a thread was made by Dee and to look for it.. or could she just be a person that now has a pregnant yorkie to look after and really just wanted to know where to look for help..or to have some one coach her through this time. that knows more then she does right now..
I do appreciate that fact that you did not get upset with me.. I hear your frustrations.. nothing worse then helping some one to find out it is a troll.. how sad is this.. but it is not always easy right away to know a troll or a person really needing help..Good idea tho I will check to see how long they have been a member also..again how do we really know..
anne