Well if you are convinced that it is truly fear based then you have to find ways to build his confidence. Has he had all his shots? Can you go for walks yet. Walking is one of the best ways to build his confidence and your bond. Just be extra aware of whats going on around you and try to avoid things/situations that will scare him. Take treats with you so that you can reinforce when he does something "brave". Do you have friends with small dogs that you can do play dates with. Playing and interacting with other dogs is another way for him to build confidence. Try and figure out what triggers it, sudden movement or sound, loud (to him) noises, perhaps even a smell. Be careful about cuddling him and sweet talking to him when he is afraid, as this generally just reinforces in him that there was a reason to be afraid. Use a calm, firm, strong voice to reassure him that you are there and in control.
Annie B was terrified of storms. If it happened at night, I would turn on a light for her and calmly say, "It's ok Annie, quit now, lay back down and go to sleep." She would want to snuggle up next to me and I'd let her, but I wouldn't pet her and just left my arm around her or my hand on her. It got to where she was just afraid and not totally terrified. I was happy with that.
Boo is very sensitive to movement and sound. We have to really watch ourselves with him so that he doesn't get frightened. If I know I'm going to be making a loud noise I always say to him, "Boo, Momma's gonna make a loud noise now. But it's ok, you're a good boy and I love you." It does seem to help him to not be so startled. He still usually leaves the room, but it's more from the noise, and not because he's scared.
So all this to say, do your best to try and figure out the triggers, and to find ways to build his confidence. He may always be a scaredy-cat, but it will hopefully get better and more tolerable. |