Aww, Vicky. I'm sorry to hear this. It's so stressful when your furbabies fight, and of course, above all you have Amelia Grace's safety as a priority.
G & B have been fighting like cats and dogs
lately and it's been driving me to drink (jk) Unlike you, we don't have any little ones toddling around, I can imagine how that makes this 1000 times worse. Around here I'm the only one getting hurt.
We've been trying the time out thing and always have a water bottle on hand. I thought it was getting better...and I initially thought Bernie was the instigator (although, now I'm not sure why I thought this), but yesterday, Ginger was growling at him from across the room everytime I turned around. Sigh...I'd love to hear what Mike had to say (hint, hint).
Enough about us, I mainly want to let you know that I understand how frustrating and scary it can be. I hope that you can figure something out, but would support you 100% if you decided to rehome.
If you need to vent, I'm here.