Thanks everyone for your replies. I'm just so frustrated with everything. There is such a strain on my marriage for the past few years and this just adds more to it. Honestly, if I were financially able I would file for divorce and take the boys myself. Having him and the two boys is like having three children. He's fine with the little one but constantly fights with the older one and just does not know how to take charge and punish him when he's mouthy. Instead, he fights back with him and tells him things like "Just get away from me and don't talk." Instead of taking the stuff away and sticking to it. He just lets it go so he don't have to fight with him, then when I get home at 10pm I get it from both of them about he did this and he did that. As we speak I have guys in my back yard installing a new pool so THEY have a good summer while I work my butt off. I'm just so disgusted with it all. Thanks again for your replies. I wish sometimes there was a crystal ball to look into to see what the future would bring. I would have never gotten married and never had kids. I would have stayed just with my dogs. Elaine |