First of all let me say that it sounds like you are a great mom! You definitely do not deserve the way he's speaking to you.
I personally don't have any skin kids yet, but I am helping to raise my 15 year old cousin Jenn. If she had spoken to me the way your son spoke to you, then when I said get out, I would have meant it. Sometimes they'll call your bluff and leave, but chances are once he realized you were serious, things would definitely improved.
When I was younger I told my mom I was gonna runaway. She said "Good luck, but don't take anything that I bought with you." In my anger, I went to pack my bags and quickly realized that all I could take with me was a CD, 2 outfits that my granparents had bought me for Christmas, and several pairs of earrings that I'd gotten from friends for my birthday. I didn't even have anything to pack in because she bought the suitcases and my duffel bag. Needless to say, it was a wakeup call and I went back to her and apologized.
My cousin Kenny (my mom raised him) threatened to run away and she said the same thing she told me. Unfortunately he left and took off down the street. Sadly when he called her bluff, she chased after him. From then on, he always knew that he had her in his pocket and has sinced treated her very similarly to how your son is treating you. I think if she had let him keep going, he would have realized that he was hungry, cold, and didn't have anything, and he would have come home and been a good bit more appreciative of what he did have.
__________________  Misty & Jamie
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