[jrsygal37]

I have a 15 yr. old boy (my first) and I am at my wits end. We are good parents. At all his highschool baseball games, bringing him his stuff every day at 1:30 for practice or games and we always make sure he has plenty of gatorade to drink. I work 30 hours a week (part time) just to have the cash for he and his 13 yr. old brother (who also plays baseball) for their equiptment, tounament fees, and travel etc.) I work so they have and I am just disgusted. There are parents that don't show up for games and kids who have NOTHING to drink at games because their parents could care less. And, yet my son talks to me like I'm a piece of crap.

Last night, his mouth was going over a simple "Can I see the jersey you got today" (I ordered name and number tee shirts for him and bb shorts etc) and he got very nasty with me and said "See it tomorrow." I finally got fed up with it all and said "No I said I want to see it now. I paid for it and I want to see it." This escalated into a big fight with him and I and his mouth etc. I grabbed him by the shirt and told him to just go to his room and keep his mouth shut. Of course he didn't keep his mouth shut. I got the "You are f... crazy. Or what the hell is your problem." I ended up with giving him a slap in the mouth (believe me a tap.) and then he gave me the "Why do you abuse me crap." I NEVER hit my kids and the little guy (my 13 yr. old is an angel). I was so mad I told him get out. Of couse he didn't and of course I wouldn't have let him leave.

However, this morning my husband was up with him before school (I'm very sick with accute bronchitis) and my husband told him he was wrong and he gave him the "mom slapped me" and then proceeded to say he's not coming home. I do not know what is wrong with men. I really don't. They do not know how to take charge or handle anything. REALLY!! He told him "Well if that's the way you feel that's your decision." Where I would have told him you had better have your butt home right after school. Last night, I took away his computer and his phone. Today, (before I got to work) I'm picking him up at 1:30 and telling him he's not going out, not on the computer and no phone.

I'm so upset over all this. More so with my husband who is a retired police officer and has no control over his son. I work from 4-10 and come home and have to hear bs from him and from my husband about all the crap (They constantly argue) and I've just had it.

We brought our son home from Guatemala when he was 8 months. Had guns pointed at us and left $50,000 in the hole to give him a good life and us the family we wanted. Both our boys were adopted and my youngest is an angel. Gives us no trouble but this guy I really do not know what to do with anymore. It's only us. He gets in no trouble at school, plays sports but has this I'm better then you attitude with us and talks down to me constantly.

I hate to vent online but is there anyone else that has teenagers and is this normal behavior. He's our oldest and I have nothing to compare it to.

Elaine