Sorry you are in this position. Definately contact the battered women's shelter near you. If nothing else, you can get some counseling there and ideas to improve your situation. Definately look to churches in your area. Many of the larger churches have pograms for abused family members. Some can even help with temporary living expenses when they verify your situation. Call an abuse hotline, they will have more ideas, I'm sure. Time to reach out. You can always contribute back when you get solid on your feet again. Do not let pride keep you from taking a little help.
As far as a job, don't rely on online resumes! You need to get out and present your resume in person. The job market is tough -- they want to see initiative and meet you in person. Get some good walking shoes and start making the rounds of businesses you might be compatible with. If no luck, step outside of your training and look elsewhere. You might have to accept something beneath your qualifications just to get you on firmer ground. There are plenty of college grads working at daycares and retail just to get through the difficult economic times.
You need to make an emergency plan NOW. You won't be able to take pets to a shelter, so find a friend or family member that can take them temporarily on a moment's notice. I am not sure if a shelter will be able to house your college age son either. Have him find a friend or family member willing to let him stay on a temporary basis as well. You need to have this in place so if the situation becomes too bad, you can enact your plan. I know a good exit plan will include a job and money. But you need a contingency plan for now too. I think once you have a firm plan, you will feel so much better. There is a horrible feeling to not knowing about tomorrow. But once you have a plan, you get some control back. Most of all, do not allow yourself to be in danger! If you feel it is imminent, just call the police or walk into the police station. Get yourself somewhere safe where you can regroup and get help. I pray you and your son find a safe place to live and your abusive spouse finds help for his sickness. |