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Originally Posted by FlDebra   Me too!
All through life, from school functions when we are students, to being a part of the wedding party, to work functions needing planning and effort, to having children and needing volunteers for school, sports and such; there are always going to be three groups of people, those who just won't get involved at all, those that are willing to volunteer AND follow through with the work, and the dreaded last group who volunteer but do everything in their power to avoid any actual work. The latter like the appearance of being involved without any of the effort.
Since you are obviously one who will be there to follow through and work to meet the needs, you better just make a pact with yourself now. Try not to overextend, because nine times out of ten you will not get much help. Know that there are always some who will appreciate what you have done and you will always have pride and self-satisfaction to comfort yourself. But nothing will change those other two groups of folks.
My words are stemming from yet another year with sports booster clubs where 3-4 parents do all of the work for the rest of the parents. You can't get an hour or two's work out of any of them; yet, opinions are always offered in abundance! Ah, but in the end, it is worth it! When you see the look on the bride's face, when I see my son enjoy his sports, there is the reward! The rest is just chaff blowing in the wind. |
Thanks for your words. I feel bad that she picked such crappy people to be in her wedding party, and I guess I just want to be able to make up for them by overextending. She has been my best friend for 19 years, I love her to death, and I don't want anything to ruin her day. I guess I feel like that's what I would want if I was getting married and the rest of the bridesmaids sucked.
I am going to call her tonight and find out what she wants to do. After 2 months of trying to get ahold of the 4th bridesmaid, I think I'm also going to ask the bride if she has talked to her lately, or if she can try to get her to call me back. I don't want to stress her out but there's only so much I can do to try to get this organized. And I don't think she'll be TOO stressed about it. She said she doesn't have a worry at all about the wedding!