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Originally Posted by xliloliverdiorx  I think I just need some advice and to rant and rave about this issue. Its been bothering me for almost a day now.
I have a friend of whom all my other friends say I should get rid of because she likes to use me for my car and my advice and nothing else. We are both 21 years old and I called her last night. I have a new boyfriend of about a month and a half who is Hispanic and is from Ecuador and he did grow up in Ecuador.
Last night when I called my friend she asked where i was i said i was on my way to Julio (my boyfriends) house. I got to his house and realized he was not there yet, however, his brother was there but in bed. I have a key to the house and they said i could be there whenever i wanted "mi casa es su casa" type of thing lol. I said on the phone oh wow only Jorge is here right now. My friend then went off and started saying that I shouldnt be at Julios house without Julio being there and that I shouldnt be there so much and everything because if Julio was an American it would be weird for you to be there. She said also that some of the things that Julio says and the fact that i have a key after a month and a half of dating would be a "red flag" in American culture. After this she proceeded to tell me that i need to "act more like an American, because you are an American but you sure dont act like it". After this she told me that I dont have a right to say i love South American food because I have never eatten one of their delicacies that they eat down there.
This is not the first time that she's gone off on be about this weird culture shock thing. In the past she has changed my music in the car from spanish salsa or reggeton to the radio because she just didnt feel like listening to that "crap". She's also said to be that I need to act more American and stop eatting so much rice, because I am not a Latina apparently according to her i cant eat rice.
But anyways so this thing really upset me and I dont know whether or not to talk to her or what i should do. I dont know what to say to her because I dont want to pit her against Julio because Julio never did anything to her but I want her to understand that I am happy and Im no longer going to let her bring me down because she doesnt like the way I am or what I like or whatever. So, what should I do? talk to her not talk to her? What should I say to her? |
Ok i couldn't even finish reading ur post until I just had to blurr out what I have to say... First friend's dont Judge they give opinions she is basically Judging you and what is it her buisness the way and life style you like to live.... Both my parent's are italian I was raised in the bronx ny I am also 21 and I went to school with all hispanic and African American kids....So I don't act like them but I do like to hang out with them until today...ur friend is selfish and is jealous and is not a good friend and u dont need to be around someone who is going to criticize u for everything u do she is sappose to support u nomatter what desicion u make as long as its nothing like harmful... I choose to not have many friends because of this judging thing people want u to be one certain way NO u can be who u want to be... And actually she is jealous u got the key to his place because most guys dont do that but he did because he trust's respect's u and if he can give u the key to his place maybe he can soon give u the key to his heart....so i think u need to put her in her place even tho ur the better person but sometimes people don't realize how critical they are to the world and it is not a good thing..xoxoxo
