I, too, have TMJ. A few years back i went to the doctors cause i was getting these severe earaches...couldnt figure out why. I didnt even think of TMJ cause i never heard any popping and i dont grind my teeth at night. But she said my jaw was a tad out of line and that she could feel it when i opened and closed my mouth. I find the only thing i can do when it does act up is to just STOP everything...go and sit and relax and hope the pain passes soon. I feel for you...the pain is just awful.