Oh another big concern I have... his mom runs a daycare and thinks she knows everything about raising children. If this works out and we have kids together, I feel like she would constantly be criticizing that too. My boyfriend's sister is pregnant, and she lives in the same city as their parents. She and her husband went over for brunch one day and left immediately afterwards. Anytime she mentioned something about the baby, her mom was saying "Oh that's not right. If you couldn't do that with a baby then all of you would be dead because I did that and it never hurt you" and the daughter was explaining that there have been studies, this stuff is harmful, but the mom wasn't having any of it. The sister's husband was very quiet the whole time and my boyfriend pointed it out to me later. He said he is always quiet around their parents, but friendly and talkative all other times. It's the same way with his other sister's husband.
I asked him if they are over a lot and he said rarely ever. They live in the same city but do not visit unless there is a good reason to. Nobody wants to be around the mom.
My parents invited us home for Easter, and since his parents are going to BC for that weekend he had nobody at home and said sure he would come have easter with us. His mom is pretty upset that he's not spending his money to fly to BC with them. She asked me if we do big family things for Easter and I said not really, we're building a new deck that weekend but I haven't been home for easter in YEARS (due to college and then work, etc) and she looked at me very disapprovingly. I can't do anything right!
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