I have found the most perfect guy. We fit so well into each others lives. He adores Layla and we've become a little family together. He is completely respectful to me and treats me like a princess. He fits in so well with my family and can visit them for hours without me even being around. And my family loves him and wants him to be around as much as possible!
His family is a different story. I am always always always loved by parents. I am polite and courteous and friendly. I dress respectably, I don't smoke, I'm not a big partier, I like to think I'm generally a good person. But apparently as soon as I date this mother's son I am the devil.
I have met her twice and both times I have felt nothing but coldness. I feel like she's constantly trying to find something wrong. She will outright insult me. I went to church with her this weekend to make her happy but after getting dressed she had to point out my "ugly puke-green purse" and say how much she hated it.
My boyfriend was looking outside to see if Layla could get out of the fence anywhere if I brought her next time. She asked if she's an inside dog and I said yes... she asked if she pees outside and I said half the time but she's pad trained while I'm at work, and she freaked out. She told me how disgusting that is and that I just need to kick her outside. I said I don't have a fenced yard and need to take her out on a leash everytime and she told me just keep a leash attached all the time
I am never taking my dog there.
She insulted my small-town upbringing by saying she would never raise a kid in a small town because they don't get an education. Really? I suppose that's why I was 4th from the top of my class in college. I got everything I needed from my small town, including a community that still cares about me and life long friends I still keep in touch with no matter where they are in the world! But I kept my mouth shut to be polite.
As we were leaving I brought up my little lime green and black suitcase up from downstairs and she said "Oh that's the perfect suitcase for traveling!" I agreed, thinking she was commenting on the size because it's perfect for a carry-on. She realized I wasn't asking why so she said "It's that ugly green color so nobody at the airport would try to steal it!" and she laughed at me. My boyfriend immediately said "What's with your 'ugly green' comments this weekend???" she said it doesn't matter what color it is, it could be pink for all she cares, but "obviously she likes green so if i buy her a present i'll make sure it's a green present" and on that note I thanked her for letting me stay the weekend and we left.
I cried in the car on the way home. I really really like him but I can't handle feeling like this. He said it's the same way with all his girlfriends, she will insult and insult and insult to try to drive them away.