Hi! My advice would be, keep her in an x-pen. Those diapers are a joke in my opinion. My male took them off the female. So he has spent alot of time in his taxi for the past few days. We take them out separately. About the mess, my female does a good job of cleaning herself. We have found a few spots of blood here and there, but resolve does a great job of removing it. Be patient, it takes time to get through this, definitely keep them separated, both are too young to be parents
Good luck to you and your hubby.