[hviola]

I'm very sorry for your loss. It sounds like she would benefit from talking with someone. Maybe you could go with her? A lot of elderly people were raised to be 'hushed' about their family problems/illnesses. Thats the way it was back then. She might be hesitant, but you could be her support person.

It really does sound like this is the way she is grieving.

Your story reminds me a lot of my grandma. When she was diagnosed with cancer, she secretly sold almost all of her possessions. We would notice things missing from her house often, and she would just act like it was nothing. And would say things like "I just don't need that stuff."