I definitely need to figure this one out. It's ironic because over the holiday's my mom was talking about leaving my dad because she was so fed up with him not helping around the house! My mom has cancer and has been going through chemo and radiation, and has had 2 hip replacements, and 1 knee replacement, and has HAD IT with my dad not helping out! Luckily, the threat of leaving him, knocked some sense into him, and my dad has been a lot better about it.
My mom said to me "If you're with a man who does NOT help around the house, I would tell you to leave him immediately!" The thing about my boyfriend is, he helps when he WANTS to. Sometimes, he'll feel like it, but then seems to expect a "thank you", and some sort of praise for it!! I don't EVER recall a "thank you" for taking out the trash, doing the dishes, making the bed, etc. That's it!! NO MORE THANK YOU'S FROM ME!!!
YOU ALL ARE SOOOOOOO RIGHT ABOUT THIS!! Something needs to be done! Otherwise, it will just build up and build up, like it did with my mom, and cause a HUGE resentment. The resentment will only hurt me in the end.
(I'm making him out to be a monster, but he's truly a VERY sweet person, and aside from this issue, we do pretty well together. Just thought I would add that little piece
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