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Originally Posted by crystalsmom  So true. Nancy I always love your posts and I think you have great insight. In this instance I feel she has come to this point because she was caught with the goods so to speak and exposed and I think anyone who had a criticism should not feel it wasn't necessary at that time. We are all going through rough times in this country, the poor, middle class and the rich so it really isn't any different for her but I would guess 99% of the people would at least get to Adm. and try to work some agreement out long before being somewhat forced into it. JMHO |
I don't want to make those who felt the need to express their feelings about the situation feel bad either; we all have a different "take" of the story. Personally, I don't think she was "caught", in fact, she's the one who first bought the topic up. Would any of this surfaced if she hadn't written the apology letter? I just think she should have addressed how she would rectify the situation, but she didn't, and that's when people became outraged. I guess when she wrote the apology, she should have had a clear plan in mind on how to make things right.
I don't even know yougethesmiles, and my feelings aren't as involved as some of you. Those of you, who knew her the best, would feel the most betrayed, and feelings of betrayal bring upon feelings of outrage. I think this is more about the feelings of betrayal than anything.
I'm certainly not judging any of you, and your feelings about this situation, feelings are never right or wrong, they just are, and I while I think it's important to express our feelings, I think some of those feelings should be express privately, because feelings change over time, but the words written here will last forever.
I actually think because so many people were harsh with her, in the apology statement, she just felt, "Forget about it, after all I've done, this is the way they treat me." Let's be honest, she had done a lot for YT, and I imagine this book took up an enormous amount of her time. So now she feeling hurt and betrayed as well, and this again leads to outrage, which as we know, never solves anything, and can lead to more poor choices.
I'm just saying, if we really want someone's behavior to change for the better, support and encouragement have shown to more effective. If we just want to make ourselves feel better, than "venting" is more effective.