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Originally Posted by Bizzymammabee  I watched intervention last night and cried my a$$ off. There was a story of a family that had 11 children. The older had to help the parents raise the children. One of the girls seemed to need more attention than most. So as she grew into a beautiful young girl that kept on. She ended up at the constant mercy of boyfriends (she ended up admitting that she couldn't be without a boyfriend because she alway felt like she needed someone and didn't want to fall into the crack like she did growing up). One got her hooked on heroine and she kicked that after almost ODing at home twice. She then moved on to Alcohol and with that went the hanging with friends. She was slipped drugs one night and the guy raped her over the course of five hours and taped it. She didn't know. A few months later the police had arrested him for something (probably did the same mess again and got caught) and her video came to light. So she fell further into drinking and pills to numb her feelings. When she finally accepted help and went into recovery it all stemmed from being one of a mass and needing extra attention. I cried so hard watching that episode. These babies and their care were so much on my mind watching that episode. I pray that nothing like that happens to one of those children but it's a reality of selfish decisions that people make like having too many children and needing to have the others co-parent with them. |
So what is the excuse for all the other addicts? Just having a large family doesn't make someone an addict. I really hate victim mentalities. My husbands grandfather was one of 11, my grandma is one of 11, they both grew up to be wonderful people that were glad to come from their large families. I think if you look at large families and the number of addicts that come from them, it is not going to exceed the number of addicts that come from small families, especially not in the case of both parents being around. Same thing with felons. You go to a prison and most of those people there did not grow up in large families with both parents around. I do not think it is fair to assume that children that grow up in large families are more apt to become addicts and criminals or that they will lack attention. I think that is a completely unfounded assumption.
I'm just going to not read this thread anymore. Obviously it is full of a lot of unfounded opinions and people with control issues.