All of these suggestions sound great. Some of it may be due to her age. My dog Molly went thru a "rebellious" time about that age and in my weaker moments I wondered if I had made a mistake. Wondered that same thing when my son was that age as well! In both instances I thought one of us was going to have to move out...
Patience and consistent discipline worked both times. You have gotten some great suggestions, and it may be trial and error to see what works for you.
Still have both the dog and the son, but the son is pushing 13. May keep the dog and move the son out for a while...ha!
Carla