Divorce is an extremely personal thing. I am the child of divorced parents so I knew the one thing I didn't want was to go through that myself. Well, it didn't work out that way and, after 12 years and 2 kids, my ex and I got divorced. It was hard on the kids but both of us made a real effort to put them first and our personal feelings second. We have now both moved on and have other spouses and the kids did turn out fine. We both do recognize, however, that it was mostly a lack of maturity on our parts that led to the divorce and that our problems weren't really that bad. In hindsight I would encourage anyone to think long and hard before divorcing, maybe even go through some counseling, which is what we should have done. Even if it doesn't work out, at least both of you will have had the chance to 'air things out' and get a better perspective. Best of luck to you and everyone concerned. |