I agree with Villette. It is just about the worst thing a child deals with as their parents age. I LOVE elderly people and spend a lot of time doing things for my neighbors some of whom are elderly. My favorite neighbors were in their 90's and because I had to leave nursing in hospitals or such, I was desperate for someone to help. They lovingly welcomed me into their home and were able to manage to stay in the home so that Jane died in her bed in her room with those who lovd her and Ned had only been hosp. a few days before his death. They would say they couldn't do this or that but we still pushed them as much as possible. Ned had MD as does their daughter now.
I would advise y'all to let your grand dad make as many decisions about his care and life as possible. Elderly become very depressed when they have to give up control of their most personal things. Medical, financial and the like are very important to them.. |