Personally for me, all of the dogs that I had had in the past as well as my parent's dogs (except for one) were male. They were all sweet loving and loveable dogs, but I was ready to find out how it would be to own a female. I know that in the feline world (my personal experiences) that males are much more loving and affectionate than females are. The females tended to be much more moody.
Sooo.......when I went to the breeder's house, I was hoping for a female and that she would be a sweet, loving dog. I feel blessed as the litter was 1 week old at the time and I was the first to inquire and come to meet the breeder and see the pups. The litter was a small one: one female and one male. Anyway, I chose the female. I visited weekly and was thrilled to watch how quickly they grow and change. That in itself was a wonderful learning experience. And the breeder has children around the ages of mine. So, all of the socialization before I brought her home helped too. And, as I had already picked out her name, she knew her name when I picked her up. That was a wonderful surprise for me.
I feel lucky because I have a wonderful, healthy little yorkie who definitely meets breed standards and is so sweet and loveable, along with a puppy's enthusiasm and mischievousness. I am so in love with this little dog. Also, the breeder and I have maintained a wonderful relationship as we still e-mail and telephone each other, not only about Molly but about our children also. So, I not only got a wonderful little female but a friend too.
Being able to dress her up in cute dresses, bows, etc., is just an additional fun thing that is more for my benefit than for hers. Other than sweaters, the other really isn't necessary, but fun. And, had I chosen the boy, there are adorable things for boys too. Both sexes though, look adorable with a topknot.
So, for me, looking for a female worked out well. And, although I guess Suzanne would be considered more of a "backyard breeder" (she's been breeding yorkies for over 15 years, does that still mean she is a backyard breeder?), everything has worked out well.
Although in general, I do agree that you should go and look around and observe the pups and their mother before making a decision. You'll know, as the puppy will pick you.
