To address southern hospitality. Yes they are friendly forthright folks but I have never met a southerner that did not say "come in, have a seat, or can I get you something to drink". They key there is that the offer to enter is given. If someone comes to you and enters a gated area WITHOUT an invite then it is indeed intrusive and rude. In true southen style as well, the person entering would usually say, do you mind if I come in. So this woman crossed the line.
The problem is that you didn't stop it right there as she was entering. Upon the realization that she was crossing the line you should have said, "Oh, thanks for wanting to chat but I do not allow other dogs in my yard or near my dog. If she continued forward you say "Seriously, please do not come in but we can talk outside of the gate". I would hate to say my dog was sick but saying my dog is going through a round of shots and the vet is not sure of the outcome would do it.
It is difficult to have dispute with neighbors. If things go sour, you still live near these people so you try to get along. I always handle people that ask me questions I dont feel comfortable with by responding with questions. How much did you pay for your yorkie? my response, "are you familiar with the breed?" and just talk them in circles. When you get good at it your opponent (because at this point it IS a game) will get tired of addressing your questions and move on. |