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jrsygal37 · 12-10-2008, 04:05 PM

Hi. I'm having a problem and would like input of any teachers out there. Please. My son is 12 yrs. old in seventh grade. He scores in the 98 percentile on the country wide tests, in gifted classes and is currently in honor's math (Which I think is 9th grade Algebra) Next year he will be taking Geometry. In september his first progress report he received 24 outstandings and one unsatisfactory. The first time in his life. The unsatisfactory was in his honor's math. My husband and I were dumbfounded with the "u" since we never had any communication from the teacher to indicate a problem. We did speak to our son who said that "A lot of the kid's got unsatisfactories and that the kids that got them including himself were maintaning C and B's. Nick for the record had a 75 average at the time.

We had a meeting (September) and she wanted Nick pulled from honors. After discussion with her, the principal and us it was decided to give him a chance. We asked if she could update us with a note sent home on Friday letting us know how he did, whether he struggled with anything etc. She said and I quote "Every week. I don't have time for that." Well the principal was shocked as we were. The guidance counselor then jumped in and said "We have a Friday report and you have to fill it out at a parent's request." It was then decided that this would come home with Nick on Friday. We got them every week up until Thankgiving week in which they were off and then this week in which they had half days due to conference. We also did receive Nick's report card right before Thanksgiving in which he received an 83 percent (high C) in math - so he brought it up from a 75 to an 83. By the way, he was 1/2 a point away from a B and that 1/2 of a point kept him for the first time off the honor roll.

This past Friday, we received a call from the councelor stating that this math teacher thought he should be pulled from honor's because he is still struggling. I was taken back since his report card grade and since once again we had no communication to indicate a problem. We once again had a meeting.

The meeting was not good. She was very nasty. I just want to say we have never had a problem with any teacher ever. She said she gave Nick a report on Friday to bring home. I told her we asked Nick and he said due to the half day he never received one. She said he was a liar. Well, I stated that my son does not lie. I know parents say this and think their kids are great but let me say a couple of things 1. Nick is Autistic. He has Asperger's very high functioning and he is on the spectrum of shy and quiet not hyper. Everything to him is black and white and he follows all the rules etc. He does not know how to lie. I explained this to the principal in front her her. So I was not just assuming. I know from living with him. 2. My older boy had this same teacher and we had problems with her then too HOWEVER, I took he side NOT MY OLDER SON'S SIDE because my boys are night and day. My older son would fib and say he didn't get it - just to avoid gbetting in trouble and I know this about him just as I know that Nick won't. Anyway, sorry so long but they pulled Nick into the meeting and asked him and he said that he did not get the paper. He could sense the tension in the room and when the counselor started to grill him about the work etc. he started to melt down and I attempted to comfort him with "Nick you're not in trouble" and this teacher huffed and gave a discussed look.

I asked to have my son removed from the room. Once gone the discussion went on. The principal who has been there ONLY 3 weeks said "Well you believe your son but I believe my teacher's." Another words he will ALWAYS back his teacher/s. With that I said "Ok meeting is done." and stated that I'd take it up with the Board of Education. With that this teacher then said "Knock yourself out." Very very very nasty during the meeting, just very unprofessional.

I did speak to the superintenent and not sure what will happen. His whole schedule is disrupted because I took him out of the honors and put him in an "A" track math class that does the same work but at a slower pace. My issue here is she has tenure. She has had MANY issues with other parents - not hear say. Two months ago the same situation with another parent and honor's child and they had to at that time also remove this teacher from the room. Seven children this year have been removed voluntarily from this teacher's class due to similiar circumstances.

My question is with Tenure what does this mean? Does it give them a free hand to act and do as they please with no consequences or will action be taken?

I feel very badly for my son. He's a very good kid. No one has a bad thing to say about him and he's struggled his whole life to get as far as he has. I'm very worried that all of this will set him back emotionally. I was especially angry that this teacher would huff and give a disgusted huff and look when I tried to comfort him. I don't baby him. I really don't but I could see he was getting very upset by the atmosphere and just wanted him to know that it was alright - he was not in trouble.

Thanks for any input and again I'm sorry so long. I really did try to keep it short.

Elaine

Every week on Wed. she is there for extra help. Nick took full advantage of this.

12-10-2008, 04:05 PM	#1
jrsygal37 Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Jersey Shore Posts: 3,370	Any School Teachers? Please. Hi. I'm having a problem and would like input of any teachers out there. Please. My son is 12 yrs. old in seventh grade. He scores in the 98 percentile on the country wide tests, in gifted classes and is currently in honor's math (Which I think is 9th grade Algebra) Next year he will be taking Geometry. In september his first progress report he received 24 outstandings and one unsatisfactory. The first time in his life. The unsatisfactory was in his honor's math. My husband and I were dumbfounded with the "u" since we never had any communication from the teacher to indicate a problem. We did speak to our son who said that "A lot of the kid's got unsatisfactories and that the kids that got them including himself were maintaning C and B's. Nick for the record had a 75 average at the time. We had a meeting (September) and she wanted Nick pulled from honors. After discussion with her, the principal and us it was decided to give him a chance. We asked if she could update us with a note sent home on Friday letting us know how he did, whether he struggled with anything etc. She said and I quote "Every week. I don't have time for that." Well the principal was shocked as we were. The guidance counselor then jumped in and said "We have a Friday report and you have to fill it out at a parent's request." It was then decided that this would come home with Nick on Friday. We got them every week up until Thankgiving week in which they were off and then this week in which they had half days due to conference. We also did receive Nick's report card right before Thanksgiving in which he received an 83 percent (high C) in math - so he brought it up from a 75 to an 83. By the way, he was 1/2 a point away from a B and that 1/2 of a point kept him for the first time off the honor roll. This past Friday, we received a call from the councelor stating that this math teacher thought he should be pulled from honor's because he is still struggling. I was taken back since his report card grade and since once again we had no communication to indicate a problem. We once again had a meeting. The meeting was not good. She was very nasty. I just want to say we have never had a problem with any teacher ever. She said she gave Nick a report on Friday to bring home. I told her we asked Nick and he said due to the half day he never received one. She said he was a liar. Well, I stated that my son does not lie. I know parents say this and think their kids are great but let me say a couple of things 1. Nick is Autistic. He has Asperger's very high functioning and he is on the spectrum of shy and quiet not hyper. Everything to him is black and white and he follows all the rules etc. He does not know how to lie. I explained this to the principal in front her her. So I was not just assuming. I know from living with him. 2. My older boy had this same teacher and we had problems with her then too HOWEVER, I took he side NOT MY OLDER SON'S SIDE because my boys are night and day. My older son would fib and say he didn't get it - just to avoid gbetting in trouble and I know this about him just as I know that Nick won't. Anyway, sorry so long but they pulled Nick into the meeting and asked him and he said that he did not get the paper. He could sense the tension in the room and when the counselor started to grill him about the work etc. he started to melt down and I attempted to comfort him with "Nick you're not in trouble" and this teacher huffed and gave a discussed look. I asked to have my son removed from the room. Once gone the discussion went on. The principal who has been there ONLY 3 weeks said "Well you believe your son but I believe my teacher's." Another words he will ALWAYS back his teacher/s. With that I said "Ok meeting is done." and stated that I'd take it up with the Board of Education. With that this teacher then said "Knock yourself out." Very very very nasty during the meeting, just very unprofessional. I did speak to the superintenent and not sure what will happen. His whole schedule is disrupted because I took him out of the honors and put him in an "A" track math class that does the same work but at a slower pace. My issue here is she has tenure. She has had MANY issues with other parents - not hear say. Two months ago the same situation with another parent and honor's child and they had to at that time also remove this teacher from the room. Seven children this year have been removed voluntarily from this teacher's class due to similiar circumstances. My question is with Tenure what does this mean? Does it give them a free hand to act and do as they please with no consequences or will action be taken? I feel very badly for my son. He's a very good kid. No one has a bad thing to say about him and he's struggled his whole life to get as far as he has. I'm very worried that all of this will set him back emotionally. I was especially angry that this teacher would huff and give a disgusted huff and look when I tried to comfort him. I don't baby him. I really don't but I could see he was getting very upset by the atmosphere and just wanted him to know that it was alright - he was not in trouble. Thanks for any input and again I'm sorry so long. I really did try to keep it short. Elaine Every week on Wed. she is there for extra help. Nick took full advantage of this.