I totally understand how you feel! When we moved from KS to TX it was heartbreaking to leave our vet office! They had been through so much with us! And they were sad to see us go too!
We still send them christmas card (the practice is owned by 2 brothers).
My gyno moved away once too. It was really hard on me because I had been through a lot of womanly problems at a very young age, and I really liked the woman. When I went to the new gyno, she was very rough and unforgiving, mainly because she had 4 kids and had been in the business for a long time. I have never found a doctor yet that I liked as much as my first one.
Come to think of it, I haven't found a vet that I liked as much as the ones in KS too!
I completely comiserate with you on your experience. I am sorry for what you are going through, and hope you find another place that makes you happy.