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Originally Posted by QuickSilver  Okay, the plot thickens. She told me in confidence today that she is planning to relocate to New York next month. No one at the office knows. I guess originally she didn't feel like she was totally giving him up because I bring him to the office and she still gets to play with him. Now that she's going to New York, she realizes she won't see him at all.
She proposed that I keep him for a few months while she settles in New York, and then I guess she'll decide whether or not she wants him back. I'm thinking about saying yes, and then keeping him either way. Before, I was very concerned about causing tension in the office, but if she's leaving, there's not much connection there.
I have to say, it never occurred to me this would happen. I probably wasn't very smart about the price, but one the other hand, I knew that I was very bonded with this dog and that we are compatible.
She says that she knows it's selfish to keep him and that she would not be giving him the life he deserves. And honestly, a New York winter day would turn him into a dogsicle within minutes. He has to wear a sweater in San Francisco! And the tiny apartments in New York... I'm floored. I lived in New York for many years, and I know it takes a lot more work to care for a dog there than it does in NorCal.
On the other hand, I knew she wasn't super-responsible to begin with, given that she didn't take great care of him, so maybe I shouldn't be surprised at how she's handling this.
I'm still worked up, but I think it's probably going to turn out okay... I hope. |
I would agree to her proposal asking you to keep the dog for a few months while she gets settled in-in New York, however if she does end up wanting the dog back after that, I simply wouldn't give him back. Part of me feels like that is wrong because I always try to be a good person and I don't like lying, but we are talking about the welfare of an animal in this particular case and if he wasn't being properly taken care of by her then I simply wouldn't give him back, period. I think it is actually pretty selfish of her to admit that she doesn't take care of him properly yet she still wants him back? I mean, what the heck is that? I'm sorry to say but it sounds to me like her life would just be easier without him in it. Maybe she is too busy or whatever - but IMO it doesn't sound like she needs to even own a dog at this point in time.
And for all we know, she could move to NY, settle in for a few months and then realise that it really is easier (for her) without him. Maybe after being apart for him for a few months wanting him back will kind of fade away. Lets hope so!
Whatever you do, I would keep that baby no doubt. I think he will live a much better life and be alot happier living in California with you
