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Originally Posted by QuickSilver  Thank you, everyone, for the support and the advice. The more I think about it, the more I think maybe she is freaking out about this big move. She is moving to New York for school in month, and she doesn't have an apartment or a job yet. I am really hoping that she is giving herself three months to truly let go.
She acknowledged to me that it would take something of a perfect storm for her to be able to care for the (my!) dog. She will be working AND going to school; she will have to find an apartment that allows pets; she will need to find a roommate, so the roommate would also want a pet; and she would ideally find a job that has a dog-friendly policy, like our company. Basically she will have much less time and money than she does now.
I'm really surprised that she is being so selfish, because I always thought of her as extremely sweet and soft-spoken. I guess I don't know her that well, though. I think I'm just going to keep the dog no matter what. I can kind of imagine her shipping him across the country, leaving him alone in a tiny apartment all day, and then saying, oh, my dog has gone psycho, tee hee!
I don't know how much she makes, but she paid well over $1,000 for this dog, and she told me that she didn't have enough money for his dental work at least two months ago... I don't think she bought him thinking that she was signing up for a fifteen year commitment. |
well, i think the reason that she is being 'selfish' is because it's her baby. i mean, she knows she is not taking good care of the dog, but you know, she is still the mommy after all. so it is hard to let go. i think that's why she is acting the way she is acting.
even bad moms like/love their kids. but truly nice ones will decide to do what's best for the kids.
it's pretty clear that you can take better care of her. but only if your friend/co-worker decides to let you have the dog.
i think you have two options: 1) give the co-worker time to realize that you can take better care of the dog and hopefully she will make the right decision (for the doggie) but whatever happens is meant to be, even if it means for her to decide that she will keep the dog. or 2) i don't think your co-worker is the type to appeal to logic or reasoning. so if you want to try to prove to her that you really should be the one to keep the dog, then you need to appeal to her emotions. by letting her know what it would be like for the dog and how sad it would be to be left all along and unloved, no attention,...etc.. but you might know how to talk to her better because you know her personality.
i hope you will be able to keep the doggie!