Oh goodness! I know how easy to take on the problems of others, especially when it comes to an innocent baby, but it is NOT your responsibility to raise this child or take care of your friend. You are clearly being taken advantage of. I'm sure the doctor didn't mean anything harmful with his remark, but I'm guessing it only served to make you feel guilty like you should be doing more...(though I can't imagine what else you could be doing for her).
My guess is your friend will start talking to you again when she wants something from you, and you will only end up feeling worse.
I'm frustrated just hearing about the situation.
Is there someone (a counselor) YOU could talk to about this situation? I know there are several organizations specifically for friends and family of addicts.
I see a counselor affiliated with the rehab 2x per month for this. She says that they work on social skills there, HA!
Her advice was to 1) put all of her items in a storage shed, and pay the rent out of my friends money--say 6 months.
2) To let her figure her problems out on her own, stop being her problem solver (which I was very guilty of)
At this point, I am just thinking about closing the account I opened for her, and taking a cashier's check to the rehab, and to let them deal with it. I mentioned this to "friend" and she said she didn't want them to have control of it. If I give it to any of her family, it will be gone, and I could be sued, since I am her POA.
Yes, everyone is right. My husband is so mad over the entire thing. He refuses to talk about anything that involves her, unless it is something negative (telling me how sorry she is).
Even my Dad, who was the main one encouraging me to stand by her says she is a lost cause, and to walk away.
I just get so scared that she will try to harm herself again, and this baby will be parentless. Her sister has 2 kids and says she WILL NOT take one, and their mother forced friend to give a child up for adoption when we were younger, because she said she raised her kids and will NOT raise more. |