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Originally Posted by bchgirl  However if he didn't agree...wouldn't that translate to he didn't let you get it? |
see I can only speak for myself and my husband. Like in any relationship there will be things that you and your spouse will not agree on. My relationship does not consist of my husband telling me no or vice versa. I want to get something I talk to him about and get his
feedback not
permission. If he disagrees then we talk about why he feels that way and I tell him why I feel I want it and we come to an agreement. His reasons might be valid and make me see the situation differently or they might be his concerns and I come up with ways that will ease his concerns and we agree. An example is a new dog. I have wanted a sister for max and he said he felt one dog is enough and we shouldnt get another. Does that mean that Im not going to get my little girl? no it doesnt mean that. I spoke to him and found out why he was against it and his reasons are valid and important to me so we came up with a way to get the little girl and calm his doubts. communication is everything in my marriage, we have no room for lies, deceit and disrespect.