I'm back again!
I really think you should leave it alone, it looks really good. You're just going to keep drying it out if you keep washing it. It will fade, believe me. Especially if your hair was a lot lighter to begin with. Oh and men don't know what they're talking about, my boyfriend's the same way and likes my hair lighter than he does darker but oh well, it's so much healthier when it's darker than lighter cus of all the bleach.
You look great, we wouldn't lie to you!