Thanks for all the feedback. It's funny, why does bathing one make it so interesting for the other?
Both of mine had a funny reaction the first couple of baths when I first got Cassie. Now they don't really bother because they think "uh oh, I may be next" so they kind of shrink back and hope I don't come for them next.
Dezi is really a "different" personality. She is a "love the one you're with" kind of girl. Whether it 's my husband or I who she is responding to, that's the one who she goes to next. And if that person is still making her happy, she continues on that way. But, she really doesn't like to be "handled" so I am historically the bad guy because I always do the primping and picking.
I don't think I will ever lose the reputation unless I Never touch her again in that manner. Which wont' happen! I can't see hair in her eyes without removing it, etc.
Now, wherever I go, Cassie barrels up to the scene and Dezi just can't handle it.
My choice had been made early on when I decided I needed to let Cassie become attached to me.
I let Cassie stay in the background when I got her as a small puppy so as not to upset Dezi. But what I saw was Dezi still being annoyed at any cuddling or petting so I still couldn't handle her the way I wanted,
but Cassie was developing without enough affection and cuddling so she was not appreciating it either. I thought, " I could end up with two that I can't cuddle" and that would break my heart. Especially with the amount of work that goes into upkeep. I feel bad saying it but I started to resent the time and energy I put into caring for Dezi because she
hated me for it. Now I have a groomer that I am working with to get them to how I want them without having to do it myself.