Really great answer, Meg. Very well thought out.
Hmm...I think one thing that is really important to me in a relationship would be that there is an ability to get into arguements or disagreements without it blowing up into a big fiasco. People argue, I think it's an important part of relationships, and being able to argue and then go on loving each other without any sour feelings is soooo beyond important.
Do you like your neighbors? Do you trust them?