[Wylie's Mom]

In very good, genuine friendships - YES, I'd absolutely want and expect to be told - and would do the same for a friend. If there cannot be honesty and disclosure and support between close friends, then gosh, what is a real, close, honest friendship anyway? That's just my opinion. But, my deep, female friendships have always been just that - deep, honest, supportive - where disclosure such as that would be safe and expected and natural. Not disclosing something as devastating as that would be, to my mind, dishonest to the friendship - and I'd wonder what else the friend was hiding and that wouldn't feel right to me.