You and your daughter are in my thoughts. My brother has Aspergers, which is on the Autism spectrum, and my mom found the website
Autism Society of America: helpful. There is also a book (geared mostly towards Aspergers) called A Parent's Guide to Asperger Syndrom and High-Functioning Autism by Sally Ozonoff, Geraldine Dawson, and James McPartland that has a section on navigating through the special-ed law, so if you are concerned about your district not providing services that might be a good place to read - even if you just stop by a library or barnes and noble to see if any of the info would help! In my state, the school district pays or provides services year-round for any child who has an IEP - my brother is going to a "chat club" this summer, which is really a social skills class. She will do great - it is amazing how well kids do when they get the right diagnosis!