Oh, my darlin'. I hear ya sufferin'. Anytime we're focusing SUPER HARD on
this over here, trying to get it done to perfection and get it
done just this way - it's almost always because what we're really doing is trying to ignore
this over here. It's classic
white elephant in the room behavior. While that elephant is in the room, we'll do all sorts of behavioral things to ignore it - like, perfectionism, control issues, obsess about germs, addictions (alcoholism, whatever...) - they can be big or small.
So, much of the behavior is probably a symptom of ignoring what's really going on somewhere else inside. And finding that hidden nugget could be a really great journey for you.