Ya know, sometimes being a woman just SUCKS. I wonder too if maybe you should try a depilatory instead of shaving - of course, depil. don't last all that long either, but you wouldn't get irritation. If you shave, the self tanning would help - but yes, exfoliating first helps - and still, the right color can be tough to get and end up splotchy, it takes some practice. I used to wax and I just couldn't take the pain - but the results are nice; you could put some soothing stuff on the "bumps" right after you're done and should get rid of them - usually they sell some stuff right at the salon, but you could find it cheaper online probably.
