[Catrina]

Originally Posted by YorkieRose

The problem with the 5 yr old started FIVE years ago. The nanny's was called in when mom could not take it any longer.

A child must learn respect..and receive respect back. You parent 24/7..even when you are worn out and too tired to take a breath...but you follow through with any threat and you parent.

Example..my two girls were 3 yrs a part...they were really good girls, but we had problems from time to time...once it was when they acted up in the store while I tried to grocery shop etc.

When they were 4 and 7 yrs I took them to the grocery...a fight started, then they wanted me to by junk, toys etc..they were warned twice to stop and if I had to warn again, they would go home...they started another "poking at each other" fight...I stopped shopping, put them in the car, drove to the curb of my house and told them to GET OUT!!! Bill was home.

When I got home I had two very sorry, apologzing girls...but I did not give in and take them with me the next time...I told them I was not conveniced they would behave...another week of no shopping with mom seemed to really sink in...the 7 yr old wrote a note promising they would be good in the store and the 4 yr old signed it...

I took them that week and had perfect angels the rest of the years I shopped with them...except one time when Jodi set off a fire alarm in Pebbles Dept store, but I understood the temptation of "DO NOT TOUCH"...when you are 6 yrs old.

This is a long way of saying..set rules and limits.and follow through.

My daughters are adults now...last week when the older came for a visit we went to Ruby Tuesday's and a kid of about 8 told his mom to shut up in a loud voice..Jodi turned to her sister and said.."if we did that Mom would walked out and left us sitting here"...and she was right.
When she was 4..she laid on the floor of the A&P and had a fit...I moved to the next aisle and let her have her fit...she stopped right away without me as her audience...

wow good job.. you should have been on the show to guide the mom