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Originally Posted by tatertot15  I'm so glad YT is here when I need them....I need to vent about my family since I dont have anyone that can understand how I feel other than my husband. Ok so here goes....
so 3 years ago it was time for my older sister (by 4 years) to get married....my parents spent $18,000 on her wedding and she didnt have to spend a dime....she moved right out and into a furnished apartment, her husband grandma bought there furniture....everytime they have been in a bind both the family's come running to the rescue. Now I dont have a problem with people helping her, really I dont. What I do have a problem with is this....1 year ago it was time for me to get married....my parents always said if I stayed living at home and didnt move out that they would pay for my wedding too....well my now husband was living with us (in the basement) we paid for everything that we needed (food, our bills,neccesities ect.) only thing we didnt pay for was utilities. and my husband always helped out around the house to pay his way because they didnt want money from us. Well when we started planning the wedding my parents broke it to me that they couldnt afford to pay for the wedding....so I said ok thats fine and me and my husband payed for it ourselves....which seemed to about kill us but we did it....my mom threw in about $1500 along the way....well she went around telling people she payed about $3000 and others she just let think she paid for it all....and once again I let that go. Anyways back in December I think it was, We thought I was pregnant (2 weeks late) and it was not planned. Well I told my sister about it and she started going on about how her and her DH were thinking about trying blah blah well a month later she was pregnant....which would be fine but they are BROKE!! She has been borrowing money from everybody even me just to keep the ultilites on sometimes....well now my mom is freaking out cuz the baby is due in September and she is going to buy her the crib and dresser and changing table and all the stuff she needs that people wont buy for a shower....when my sister has had all this time to buy it she hasnt....no they spent $400 on stuff to put on her husbands truck!! So my mom is calling and complaining that she is having to do this and that she's happy that when I have a kid she wont go through this because I make more money than her and then she was like "well this way I can just go and buy whatever I want and just splurge" and the whole time she is stuttering her way through this. She basically told me she's not going to spend like that for my baby when I have one. I dont get why just because i'm the youngest I have to be treated like dirt all the time. So what if I make more money does that mean she wont buy mine a birthday gift and spend it all on her kids just because they dont have money and I do? And so you know, I by no means have money....I just make more than my sister, only a couple more dollars on the hour....and my DH is on unemployment so how in the world can she justify what she is saying to me. And to top it all off my sister went to college and has a degree that my mom is paying $40,000 for and has done nothing with, I went to Cosmotolegy school and dropped out, that only cost her $4,000. I dropped out because they were always telling me I wasnt smart enough for school....well how could I be when you are telling me that stuff everyday. Everytime I bring up school and a degree I want they say thats alot of work i dont think you could handle that.
Ok so I just realized how long this is....i'm sorry. Once I started writing I couldnt stop. Thanks for listening. |
I say let it go your mom isn't helping your sister at all and your sister will always be dependent on her and your mom will just have to live with it and deal with it. Parents are weird. In my opinion you're a better kid because you're stable.
I've been aving issues too my 14-15 told me her life is too stressful to haev me in it.