oh wow you sound just like me and my family... my mom adores my older sis and buys her whatever she wants but i never ask for money.. everything i want i have to pay for myself.. i mean once in a while she may help out with someone but that is so rare.. its just the child order of birth that may play a part.. like seriously the list goes on but my mom spent $40 K on my sis's college and never complained.. but she complained all the way through mine.. always saying how i waste her money.. when she paid the same for my sis
but yeah things like that..
i think it will always be like this.. trust me ive gotten into so many arguments about this with my mom and she doesnt seem to get it..she thinks shes always fair.. so ive just given up. i too am WAY MORE independent than my older sis.. but i think of it as a good thing. and yeah ive always been told im not as "smart" enough as her
gimme a break!
but yeah i dont know what advice to give ya cuz im in the same boat but just lean on your friends and husband for support.. if you do a good deed then congratulate yourself.. i know it hurts not getting any appreciation from your parents but you dont need it from them.. just be happy for yourself and im sure your husband and friends appreciate you
i complained a little about this to a friend recently how my sis's life is always so easy and and at the end he said "but think about it.. do you really want your sis's life? to be babied and so dependent and not know anything about the world?" and i thought about it and yeah my answer is no.. so think of it as a good thing.. you turned out to be independent, smart, and know what your doing in life
good luck with everything... if you ever want to vent more, my pm box is always open!